Mr & Mrs Nice Syndrome: PROS AND CONS OF BEING TOO NICE

       Nice can be defined as the attitude of being pleasant and polite to people. Many of us are taught from a very young age to be nice and kind to everyone we meet because one good turn deserves another... Christianity even further advices that when people do you wrong, you turn the other cheek, which means you be the bigger person. 

     Whilst this teaching is very good and useful, it doesn't apply to everybody and that's the part that most parents, guardians, caregivers and tutors omit. Majority end up learning this on their own, some at a very high damaging expense. The truth is life happens, people are raised and taught differently so you can't go through life thinking that everyone will return the favour. I also want to point out that being too nice is not wrong but whilst being nice, you should learn to be vigilant and alert, so you don't lose yourself in the process.

Being too nice is good but it has it Pros and Cons.

PROS

• You make a lot of friends, you are never alone

• You feel good about yourself. When you are constantly being nice to people, you get a feeling of achievement.

• People respect you and you respect yourself. Being nice gets you a character recognition, you won't be easily blamed if something goes wrong at your work, church, school etc because you are known for being pleasant.

• You become part of the people making the world a better place. The world is crazy as it seems so acts of kindness goes a long way in the lives of so many.

CONS

• You will be tagged or considered weak and therefore be easily taken advantage of.

• Your superior might not completely trust you. There can be a lot of eye service and hypocrisy going on in the workforce, so most times it's difficult to completely trust the "nice" person as it is believed that no one is genuinely nice.

• You may attract the wrong kinds of people. Niceness can be a sine qua non for a healthy and important relationship but if you don't have the ability to set boundaries due to your niceness, there is a great chance that you will be alluring to needy, whiny, manipulative emotional wrecks.

• You love your neighbour more than you love yourself. In other words, you forget to be nice to YOU. You end up always carrying other people's burden and forget to deal with yours. You become a people pleaser and saying no or I can't makes you feel so guilty.

Being nice is good but don't be gullible, it's a jungle out there and there is no reward for being nice. Be nice on your own terms, be nice when it's convenient for you.